What girls want
depends entirely on what you want. And so the reason why they are mean sometimes
is because they want to push away from you the very thing you want, and of
course they turn around to accuse you of being pointlessly mean, like the stupid
and violent male you are. It's hard for
us to believe it though in real time, in the actual event, that when they push
you away because they say you just "shouldn't" that it's only because
you want it―only, which means you should
of course. It's hard for us to fully
understand this; it causes us to disregard our moral upbringing. Girls don't have thoughts or opinions of
their own, they are simply receptive to everything around them, and so they
have an impression of love mattering and a sense of what a man should be, to
complement what a girl is. So their
notion of responsibility doesn't really apply to themselves, but is a
projection of what they think a guy should be.
But they themselves don't know it, understand it. And in the absence of guys who know what girls
don't, guys become the caricature notion of it that girls have (in obedience or
acting out). Because they fail to
understand the male constant, which is neither tough or principled, but simply
the thing precisely those confused guys would never guess: what they already
are, and what girls can never be―honest.
For lack of a better word, if it helps, think honest, good people. Think of girls as something else. The apparent contradiction comes when you
think of being assertive at the same time, now you must become something
immoral, but really it's nothing more than understanding the fact that girls
don't have thoughts of their own, but depend entirely on you, your thoughts and
your actions.
To be exact the
force that makes them reckless and beautiful at the same time is the force that
weighs you down and threatens the purity of your honest nature/spirit. There is a balance there but it's not
practical to think of girls as "people"; that is just another
generalization, an example of how girls tend to make a principle out of
everything, causing needy people to want to hurry and take sides, and
forgetting who and what they are as individuals, which is a threat to our
honest lifestyles.
Really difficult problem..
ReplyDeleteI've to think about it!