"What is the secret to getting with girls?"
You have to hate them.
To get girls you have to be aggressive. You find it difficult because they overwhelm you. You're sentimental.
You know what else you can't do if you're not aggressive? Be honest; they try to take that away from you too (honesty is how you corner girls and it's what defines you as a guy). If you don't hate them for that then you're just one of them, and you should be more submissive, get married, and become the herd that leaves distraught people out in the void of neglect (like christian hell) and that will provoke a world of some who'll rape and cut up your little kids. But that's what you deserve, and they'll just become apathetic to it, blame others even more, and perpetuate it; if you don't hate this absolute worthlessness then you're like them. Everyone fights; the herd and women just fight differently. If you don't think so you're like them. That's why you have to mistreat them now to prevent all of that. That's the best way of doing it. And ignore them if they don't understand it.