What girls want depends entirely on what you want. And so the reason why they are mean sometimes is because they want to push away from you the very thing you want, and of course they turn around to accuse you of being pointlessly mean, like the stupid and violent male you are. It's hard for us to believe it though in real time, in the actual event, that when they push you away because they say you just "shouldn't" that it's only because you want it―only, which means you should of course. It's hard for us to fully understand this; it causes us to disregard our moral upbringing. Girls don't have thoughts or opinions of their own, they are simply receptive to everything around them, and so they have an impression of love mattering and a sense of what a man should be, to complement what a girl is. So their notion of responsibility doesn't really apply to themselves, but is a projection of what they think a guy should be. But they themselves don't know it, understand it. And in the absence of guys who know what girls don't, guys become the caricature notion of it that girls have (in obedience or acting out). Because they fail to understand the male constant, which is neither tough or principled, but simply the thing precisely those confused guys would never guess: what they already are, and what girls can never be―honest. For lack of a better word, if it helps, think honest, good people. Think of girls as something else. The apparent contradiction comes when you think of being assertive at the same time, now you must become something immoral, but really it's nothing more than understanding the fact that girls don't have thoughts of their own, but depend entirely on you, your thoughts and your actions.
To be exact the force that makes them reckless and beautiful at the same time is the force that weighs you down and threatens the purity of your honest nature/spirit. There is a balance there but it's not practical to think of girls as "people"; that is just another generalization, an example of how girls tend to make a principle out of everything, causing needy people to want to hurry and take sides, and forgetting who and what they are as individuals, which is a threat to our honest lifestyles.